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Just got back from a nightclub, first time I've really been out there in quite a while (not really into drinking etc, since I really started getting into lifting) and I have to say it was really quite a shit experience, standing around bored in the middle of a room full of dickheads listening to crap music. I really don't know why I use to think this was fun.

 

It seems the only way people seem to socialize anymore (well around here at least) is to go to the pub. No one where I live ever really seems to play any sports anymore, have parties anymore and the car scene is pretty much non existent except for a few tryhard's who go around telling everyone how there fully sik v6 commodores rev to 9000rpm and run 5 second quarters. So all thats left to do is go to the pub and get pissed.

 

So where am I going with this little rant? well I'm not really sure.

 

Just kind of wondering if other people have the same sort of experience as me when they started getting a little more serious about there training. Do you find its hard to have a decent social life when you move on from getting pissed every weekend?

 

Curious to here about everyone else's thoughts and experiences.

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i lift.

 

i also go clubbing, i dont drink.. but i do eat chicken breast and banana before i go in and have another banana and protein shake when i come out.

been doing it for awhile, doesn't really effect my lifting, unless i get shit sleep.

 

i used to close myself off to all my mates and not go out and whatever - didn't wanna waste all the hard work i put in, but i honestly see no slowing in my progression? guess im lucky?

 

dont have to stand around mate, just hit the dance floor. lol

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Since training I don't go out anywhere near as much but I'm also single and all my close mates aren't now so we only catch up once a month or so these days. So I train instead and if bored jump in the car afterwards and head out for hills runs, lap the right suburbs and I'll see someone I know. Pull up have a chat and then head on our seperate ways.

 

Even when going out on a Friday night I'll meet people there get home from work smash down dinner train and then rock up 9:30-10pm the others will already be drunk and I'll sit there thinking why they are laughing at nothing get bored after a couple of hours and head home. Big house parties are generally the best as you can throw in a game of pool or two and get away with not drinking easier. I personally drink maybe once a month now if I'm lucky and it is only on big day ie birthday, new years etc.

 

Even the core group of friends I now go out with has changed, the bulk of us don't drink that much anymore and all do something fitness wise, be it football, MMA, gym or weights for me. Each fo us are far more interested in having a night out we can remember then just sitting there smashing down drinks. While you'll see the larger group at house parties etc on an average night out it is a core group of 5 or so people that share similar goals, aspirations in life to actually achieve something.

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i havent been lifting for long but i've already noticed my priorities change. used to be always about going out and spending heaps of money having a blinder but now im sorta over the clubbing scene. i still love the music im just over treating my body badly, being around heaps of wankers in the valley and staying awake for stupid amounts of time. i've now got gym sessions on the top of my 'to do' list and really trying to eat healthy.

i used to drink a carton a week but now its probably 2 stubbies a week at most. bank balance looks alot healthier aswell.

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I lift and I'm married and getting too old to party all the time so its worked out well. <_>

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I agree with you sweepa.

 

I think you need to find a better balance, maybe just accept that you're going to have to compromise your training in exchange for a bit more of a social life. It really is sad the way people just binge it up all the time when there are so many other things they could be doing as a group. Personally I find that alcohol/drugs make me quite depressed in the days following. At the same time, it's pretty sad the way some guys get so obsessed with going to the gym, trying to be physically perfect/excessively huge.

 

If you have the patience maybe try to enjoy clubbing without the alcohol but I know that's something I couldn't do.

 

I'm no serious trainer but I'll gym it 2 or 3 times a week and on the off days go for a bike ride and when it comes to the weekends I try and minimize it but usually I'll end up having some beers or bongs or something just so I can enjoy some time with mates, I need to be around people, gotta be happy too...

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You do need the find the perfect balance.

 

Im more serious now than I was last year, And I lost a girlfriend over it. Instead of spending time with her or meeting her after work, I was straight into the gym. She felt we couldn't go out because I was "too picky" with what I ate. And a few more reasons, But lets not go into that.

 

I couldn't find the balance there. Now shes out of the picture, I can balance working 60 hours a week and training.

 

As for going out, I've been out and it was actually a rather decent experience. Mates/Girls/Randoms didnt see me as the lanky 6'6" giant they used to know. Instead im seen in a "bigger" perspective to such ppl. Hard to explain but in my opinion its a good thing. Feeling good, looking good, with your mates, fun DOES happen! I wasnt bored when i was out or anything like that, Had a good time (and I was drinking).

 

 

Heres a pro about your situation too Sweepa;

 

Your not BLOWING 300-600 bucks a weekend on going out and messing around. Your training your body in the way that you want it to be trained, and are seeing results. You are actually saving money, But then again you are putting into your body, which in my opinion is a better alternative than wasting it at a club.

 

Heres my problem now:

 

I put the money im saving from NOT smoking and NOT drinking into my body and training, But at the same time doing up my drift S14... ummmm..... i NEED to find a balance there :rolleyes:

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Agree with you fully sweepa.

Going out clubbing is about as exciting as watching paint dry to me.

If I want to catch up with mates I'll usually go out to dinner/lunch with them or something.

So that way I'm still socialising, but just avoiding the boring shit.

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Older you get, everything seems to get boring and isnt the same as it used to be.

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and u dont know how u used to be able to stay awake till 5am. these days im knocked out by midnight

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and u dont know how u used to be able to stay awake till 5am. these days im knocked out by midnight

 

I agree 110%.

 

I can barely stay awake past 12:30am. I used to stay up and do all nighters and stuff with mates even when I did work fulltime...

 

 

Not anymore :/

 

 

I suppose the whole "needing to sleep at least 6-8 hours on minimum to recoup for next days training" took over.

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and u dont know how u used to be able to stay awake till 5am. these days im knocked out by midnight

 

I agree 110%.

 

I can barely stay awake past 12:30am. I used to stay up and do all nighters and stuff with mates even when I did work fulltime...

 

Not anymore :/

 

I suppose the whole "needing to sleep at least 6-8 hours on minimum to recoup for next days training" took over.

Yeah I'm the same. Used to do all nighters years ago when I had assignments due.

Now I'm pretty wrecked by midnight.

Always try to get the 6-8 hours sleep.

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She felt we couldn't go out because I was "too picky" with what I ate.

 

As much as i fully respect the seriousness you've taken towards your body building, i think that going out once or twice a week with loved ones should still have a priority.

 

I take my training and diet very seriously, to a dime but once a week, on a friday or saturday night, i would take the gf out forr a nice dinner or what not :)

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Yeah mate, I totally agree all the way.

 

Except this girl is now an "EX" for a reason. Mainly because she couldnt hack the idea of me eating all healthy and not eating choclate/nachos/chips and all that late at night on the weekends with her. I would resist and say "No, Ill eat *this* or *that*"...

 

I don't know, Was a weird situation... Either way, I've been going out with Friends and other Women who train and i've found that there are some that are ten times pickier than me haha

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To sweepa

You know what sweepa, your the man. Honestly, just turned 21 the other week and im so fcking over clubbing, but what else can you do when your mates just wanna go out and club and get fcked up every saturday. Iv been training since about yr 11, but in the last couple of years iv been trying to get maximum gains where as before it was more of a fitness thing.

 

To answer your question, go out with your friends but the night is what you make it. Sure there will be wankers and ppl who are fcked off their head, thats pretty much going to be the case with every club, but try and not fall into the mind set of "*swearing filters own me* this bad is terrible i cant wait to leave". If thats not a decent solution, try and hang out with your mates that dont go clubbing every w.e (usually the ones in relationships lol), the best times iv ever had were with a small group of mates.

 

To Sir_JDM

*swearing filters own me* your ex man. Being a lifter requires sacrifice and i applaud that you have a strict regime and are motivated. I used to never want to eat anything which most would consider unhealthy, but at the stage im at in my training the occassional less than ideal meal/snack doesnt really effect me as much as i thought it would. Honestly it probably wouldnt effect you as much as you think it would. As for your ex, im my personal experience i have NEVER, let me repeat that NEVER had ANY gains whilst in a relationship. Maybe its just the relationship mentality that causes you (well me at least) to become lazy but *swearing filters own me* man iv made huges gains since my last relationship. Nothing is holding you back man, tear it up.

 

Too everyone else

Like Spazo said, you must find the correct balance. No-one can give you the magic answer to what that balance is for you as we are all different. Some people are willing to make any sacrifice no matter what the cost to make gains, others prefer to get fkced up and slowly but surely make minimal gains.

 

At the end of the day if you're a fanatic who's life is very much centred around your training, thats your choice, and you should be proud your doing something good for yourself. Like any investment (training, education etc), if you endure and stay motivated you will ALWAYS have something in the future to look forward to. If you dont have any sort of investment for the future in place...what do you have to look forward to? The next w.e? Getting so fcked up you cant remember what happened the night before or how you spent that much money?

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To Sir_JDM

*swearing filters own me* your ex man. Being a lifter requires sacrifice and i applaud that you have a strict regime and are motivated. I used to never want to eat anything which most would consider unhealthy, but at the stage im at in my training the occassional less than ideal meal/snack doesnt really effect me as much as i thought it would. Honestly it probably wouldnt effect you as much as you think it would. As for your ex, im my personal experience i have NEVER, let me repeat that NEVER had ANY gains whilst in a relationship. Maybe its just the relationship mentality that causes you (well me at least) to become lazy but *swearing filters own me* man iv made huges gains since my last relationship. Nothing is holding you back man, tear it up.

 

 

 

This is also another "balance" in relation to what OP has asked.

 

Let it be known whats high lighted above is very very VERY true.

 

I became rather Ill in September and stopped training due to this, And working 12-14 hour days didnt help. So naturally I slowed down a lot and then I also went to Thailand in August with my gf at the time; When I got back, Straight back into the gym with no motivation.

 

Since being single, Gains have hit again, And im past my usual stats compared to what I was before I stopped.

 

What you have said above my friend, Is very true. Maybe we are to be single forever to acheive our goals? As I have never come across any girl in my time that was remotely supportive of what I wanted to do. Friends either really..

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What you have said above my friend, Is very true. Maybe we are to be single forever to acheive our goals? As I have never come across any girl in my time that was remotely supportive of what I wanted to do. Friends either really..

 

Its not that my partners weren't supportive its just that i became lazy. Also im pretty sure everyone realises that there is only so much time you have and while you're in a relationship a large portion is spent on/with your partner. If your partner wasn't supportive of your training thats pretty messed up. What girl wouldnt want their bf to be healthy and look great? Back to the point, being single just gives you more time to train, sleep eat at the right times etc. So its sad to conclude that gf's hold you back in terms of your training...but they do :ph34r:.

 

 

Not sure what can really be said about your friends, obviously they dont train themselves so they cant really relate as to what needs to be done to make decent gains.

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So where am I going with this little rant? well I'm not really sure.

 

Just kind of wondering if other people have the same sort of experience as me when they started getting a little more serious about there training. Do you find its hard to have a decent social life when you move on from getting pissed every weekend?

 

Curious to here about everyone else's thoughts and experiences.

 

Hmmm, i know what your talking about, for a while i wasn't enjoying the clubs and bars, but probably for other reasons. I work 6 days, train 4 nights and make sure i go out once or twice a week and usually have a good time, lots of laughs hanging shit on eachother.

 

Because your diet concious you probably analise what people are skulling into there body and the toxins there retaining and makes you perturbed? I have mates who dont train at all (except jogging) and they never drink and have a good time, but thats thier avenue to chat and get pussy. I reckon you should not let this stop you from going out meeting girls, people and having a good time, clubs may not be the best place though, style bars ftw??!! lol.

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Geez what a bunch of old men

 

Lifting weights and being fit is good and all, but god, you need to enjoy yourself also.

 

I train 5 days a week, sometimes twice a day doing cardio stuff in the morning, and I still go out and get hammered most weekends with the boys, doin all nighters and picking up random sluts ha ha. If your single and staying in on the weekend GET OUT!

 

I can understand if you're a pro athlete of some description, but most of us aren't and never will be

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Its not were you go its who you go with.

 

I could go out with a couple of mates and have the worst night, time and time again, I go with a couple of other mates and have the time of my life...

 

But its just having that balance aswell makes it interesting

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